Every once in awhile, we agree to do something or join something and then think "Maybe this isn't for me..." Well, like everything else, sometimes that's how people begin to feel about Greek Life, as much as we hate to admit it.
Out of every pledge class there are some girls who decide they don't click with their new sisters, they don't want to be apart of the Greek community, or their dues are just too much. Whatever their reason, they think they may want to drop their sorority entirely.
If you start thinking that Greek life may not be for you or you can't afford it I recommend you take the following steps.:
1. If you are close with any of the girls in your sorority talk to them about your thoughts and feelings. They could be able to help you and if they can't then you will have at least given them some warning about your potential decision. I emphasize talking to them even if there's no chance of you changing your mind, how would you feel if you were continuing your day-to-day life and one of your best friends just stopped coming around?
2. Talk to your organization's president or membership chairman. They might be able to ease your fears or help you work out some of the issues you may be facing.
3. If money is part of or the main problem, talk to your chapter's treasurer. She may be able to work out a plan with you so you do not have to drop. Be sure to talk to her before you are way behind in dues. If you are struggling to meet the first month but get it worked out that's okay, but if the struggle is a month to month thing then it's best to meet with her sooner rather than later.
If after these steps you still feel that you don't belong then you should make your own decision. Below I have a couple of sites that give you some more insight into dropping and the experiences of other girls who have had the same feelings.
HerCampus: Pros and Cons of Dropping Out of a Sorority
The Eighty8: My Sorority Experience
The Odyssey Online: If You're Thinking About Dropping Your Sorority, Don't Give Up Just Yet
That is some really good advice for people thinking about dropping. You bring up good points to help a girl who would be on the fence.
ReplyDeleteCommunication and knowledge of self is key. It is important to voice and express how you feel. Your examples and links look like they would be hopeful to someone who was having difficulty making their decision.
ReplyDeleteVery good advice Taryn! Sometimes just talking about a problem/concern with a friend can really help you make the right decision for yourself.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend that dropped out of a sorority and I don't think she took these steps. It could have really helped her I'm sure. Good advice!
ReplyDeleteI think your blog is very becoming. Many girls are probably sold on going to that D1 school and joining that extra school spirited sorority . But when they quickly learn the lack of unity and inclusion because the sorority is so big they may lose themselves and find that it's not as much as a fit for them.
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