Monday, June 29, 2015

Surviving Your First Sorority Formal

One part of sorority life that is a major plus for a lot of girls is the fact that they get to go to what are called Formals. They are reminiscent of your high school dances but without the teacher chaperones.

When it comes to formals there are often themes. These themes determine what you wear and can range from a beach party to masquerade. The food, venue, drinks and attire will all reflect what the announced theme is.
Some popular themes include:
  • Under the Sea
  • Rock n Roll
  • Night in Venice
  • Old South
  • Your Wildest Dreams
When it comes to formals there are some important things to remember.
  1. Think seriously about your date. You'll spend all or most of your night with this person and if they start acting irresponsibly then you will most likely be held responsible for their actions. Most chapters say if your date is getting removed then so are you and often, after being removed, you will not be let back in.
  2. Don't be afraid to bring a friend. Sometimes having a friend there is better than having a significant other or potential hook up. Also, don't be afraid to bring non-Greek friends or friends from other chapters. If you think that person will make your night better then feel free to bring them along.
  3. Don't feel like you are required to wear floor length formal gowns. The only reason to wear especially dressy clothing is if it directly correlates to your theme and if you can afford it. It's always more fun to dress to the theme than spend $100+ on a dress you may not wear again.
  4. Wear or bring comfortable shoes. It's great to wear those adorable new heels but getting on and off the bus may end badly if you can't walk in them. It is also a possibility that there will not be any chairs to rest your feet in so it is ideal to wear or at least bring shoes you can dance and walk in comfortably.
  5. Don't risk getting kicked out by drinking when underage. This goes for pre-gaming too. Some girls may get together, drink and get ready before the formal but if your chapter's Risk Management chair has said no pre-gaming that puts these girls at risk of not getting to go at all. At many formals there are normally strict rules for alcohol and anyone underage can be kicked out which may result in a judicial hearing and major consequences.
  6. Eat. The food that your Social Events chair chose to be catered is probably delicious and expensive. Plus, this is the only food you'll have access to for probably 3 to 5 hours and you may not feel like going to dinner at 11 pm after formal is over.
  7. Make plans for after formal. Sometimes the most fun you have the night of formal is what you do after. After my last spring formal one of my friends had the idea of watching movies with our dates in the chapter room. It was one of the best times from the formals I've been to.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

What Happens When Something Isn't Right...

Every once in awhile, we agree to do something or join something and then think "Maybe this isn't for me..." Well, like everything else, sometimes that's how people begin to feel about Greek Life, as much as we hate to admit it.

Out of every pledge class there are some girls who decide they don't click with their new sisters, they don't want to be apart of the Greek community, or their dues are just too much. Whatever their reason, they think they may want to drop their sorority entirely.

If you start thinking that Greek life may not be for you or you can't afford it I recommend you take the following steps.:
1. If  you are close with any of the girls in your sorority talk to them about your thoughts and feelings. They could be able to help you and if they can't then you will have at least given them some warning about your potential decision. I emphasize talking to them even if there's no chance of you changing your mind, how would you feel if you were continuing your day-to-day life and one of your best friends just stopped coming around?
2. Talk to your organization's president or membership chairman. They might be able to ease your fears or help you work out some of the issues you may be facing.
3. If money is part of or the main problem, talk to your chapter's treasurer. She may be able to work out a plan with you so you do not have to drop. Be sure to talk to her before you are way behind in dues. If you are struggling to meet the first month but get it worked out that's okay, but if the struggle is a month to month thing then it's best to meet with her sooner rather than later.

If after these steps you still feel that you don't belong then you should make your own decision. Below I have a couple of sites that give you some more insight into dropping and the experiences of other girls who have had the same feelings.

HerCampus: Pros and Cons of Dropping Out of a Sorority

The Eighty8: My Sorority Experience

The Odyssey Online: If You're Thinking About Dropping Your Sorority, Don't Give Up Just Yet

Monday, June 22, 2015

Big/Little Week!!!!

Big/Little week is a very exciting time for everyone in the chapter. The new members are receiving their Bigs,  some girls are finally getting to claim their Littles and older members are adding new members to their sorority family.
At the beginning of Big/Little week the Bigs will leave notes and gifts for their Littles. The notes will include hints to the Big's identity so the Little can try to guess, however, some Bigs will toss in a few false clues in order to throw off their Little if they think she is getting too close to guessing her identity. These false hints are all in good fun and are typically trivial like "I have brown hair" when the Big actually has blonde hair.
As for the gifts, each chapter and "family" has their own traditions but there are a few gifts that most girls receive. Below are some images of different gifts.


Alpha Xi Delta Big/Little Canvas
 
Family Photo Frames

Kappa Delta decorated letters

At the end of the week the Littles finally get to find out who their big is and the rest of the chapter gets to welcome the new members into their families. Reveal can be done in a number of ways so to show you a couple of different reveal methods I included some videos of different reveals from different chapters.





Personally, this post is the most exciting for me because this Fall I am (hopefully) getting a Little!! I can't wait and I've already been thinking about gifts!

Saturday, June 20, 2015

Well-Known Sorority Women

One of the ways members of Greek life explain to non-members how valuable membership is, is by showing how many famous Greeks there are! I created a slide show with PhotoSnack of 15 well-known sorority women. I also included their universities and what sorority they belong to.


Friday, June 19, 2015

Structure of Sororities

A lot of people hear different things about sororities, like what's required to wear for recruitment of the chapter members or that certain events are absolutely mandatory, but most people do not know where these decisions come from. In order to help you understand the structure of sororities I made a graphic through Piktograph and I will also define each position so you get the best understanding possible about who makes what decisions.



(Inter)National Headquarters: Headquarters is in charge of several things. They distribute paid dues to different areas of the organization, make decisions involving fraternity housing, and other things that affect the organization as a whole. Some organizations have National Offices, their chapters are only in the U.S. while others have International Offices, they have chapters or colonies in Canada or other countries.

Regional Officers: Regional officers oversee several chapters in a region. For example, a regional officer will oversee all chapters in Kansas, Missouri and Iowa. They act as a liaison between their chapters and the National Headquarters. They also approve chapter calendars and make other decisions that only affect their chapters.

Chapter Advisors: Chapter Advisors are in closest communication with the collegiate members. There are often advisors for several aspects of the fraternity. There could be different advisors for the president, rituals, or housing. They often visit chapter meetings to address the chapter directly and help collegiate members on the chapter's executive council. There may be one head advisor that works with the president to handle chapter operations.

Executive Council: The Executive Council is made up of member of the chapter. They hold positions such as Academic Achievement chair, Vice President or President. They run the chapter's daily functions. This can include planning recruitment, study hours, or even running the chapter meeting.

Chapter: The chapter is able to give feedback to the Executive Council and can even apply for council positions. Some chapters have a second council that is in charge of planning events such as formals, family days and mixers. This enables more chapter members to hold positions.
 
 

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Greek Life Vocabulary

You know the saying "it's all Greek to me"? That's how many people, including new members of Greek organizations feel when they hear words, acronyms and phrases used by older Greek life members. In order to keep you from feeling this way I have compiled a list and general definitions to use when you start hearing things that you don't know the meaning of!
 
Active: initiated member, enrolled in the university who pays dues to the organization

Alumni: initiated members of a men's fraternity who have graduated from college

Alumna/Alumnae: initiated member of a women's fraternity or sorority who has graduated from college, the latter is the plural form to be used when talking about several graduated members

Badge: a pin worn only by initiated members, each organization has their own special pin


http://www.tulsapanhellenic.org/taap-member-chapters/

Bid: a formal invitation to join an organization

Bid Day: the day a PNM receives their bid and finds out which chapter it they are invited into

Big: this is short for "big brother" or "big sister", a big serves as a mentor and friend to their "little". The primary reason is to help through the new member period and initiation but the connection often carries over past this period, even once both members are alumni/alumnae

Chapter: local group of the larger (inter)national organization, often distinguished from other chapters of the same organization by a special Greek name of their own. For example: Phi Mu, Epsilon Chapter

Composite: a single display with professionally taken photos of all of the members of that chapter

Continuous Open Bidding (COB): this is also known as informal recruitment, this is an opportunity for chapters that missed quota during formal recruitment to gain more new members in order to meet quota. Not all chapters will participate in COB.

Executive Council: the council of members with positions such as President, Vice President, Secretary or Treasurer

Founder's Day: a day that commemorates the date or approximate date in which an organization was founded. This can be accompanied by celebrations depending upon the chapter.

Infraction: consequences given to an organization that violates the rules of recruitment or rush

Initiation: official ritual or ceremony performed to transition the new members into actives, or full membership of the organization. This is often where any secrets of the organization are revealed.

Interfraternity Council: governing body of all men's fraternities. There is a national council and a council for each university.

Intentional Single Preference: when a PNM only lists one organization on her MRABA after Preference has concluded.

(Inter)national Headquarters: the central organization of a certain sorority or fraternity

Lavalier: a necklace bearing the letters of a Greek organization, these can be given as gifts. A man giving a woman a necklace with his letters is called a "lavaliering" which symbolizes a commitment of their relationship.

http://www.alisonandivy.com/greek-lavalier-necklace.html

 
Legacy: a family member of an initiated member of an organization. Each organization defines a legacy differently. Some only consider daughters, sisters, or granddaughters legacies while others are open to nieces or cousins. This May or may not affect a woman's invitations during recruitment. Being a legacy does not require an organization to extend a bid to that person.

MRABA: Membership Recruitment Acceptance Binding Agreement. Single year binding agreement that states if a PNM receives a bid to any given organization and she turns it down or quits before being initiated then she is bound for one year, or until the next formal recruitment period before accepting a bid to another organization. Once a member is initiated into one organization they can not be initiated into another. For example, you can not be a member of Zeta Tau Alpha and Alpha Delta Pi.

National Pan-Hellenic Council: the governing body of historically-black Greek organizations.

National Panhellenic Conference: the governing body of women's Greek organizations. There is a single national council and councils for each university.

New Member: someone who as accepted a bid to an organization but is not yet initiated and considered active. 

Panhellenic: all Greek affiliated women. This is also a mindset or attitude, being sisterly to those of other women's organizations.

Philanthropy: a charity or cause supported by the organization

Pledge Class: the group of members brought in during a certain year or recruitment period. Girls who received bids in 2013 are considered the pledge class of 2013, no matter what year they are in school.

Potential New Member (PNM): a woman who is eligible to participate in recruitment. Even if the woman has no intention of going through recruitment she is still considered a PNM until recruitment officially begins.

Preference: the last round of recruitment but also the process of a PNM selecting which organizations she would accept bids from.

Quota: the number of potential new members an organization can offer bids to during formal recruitment. This is determined by a formula that considers the number of chapter on campus and the number of women participating in the recruitment process.

Recruitment: the process of mutual selection between a potential new member and a chapter.

Recruitment Counselor: a sorority member who temporarily disaffiliated from her chapter in order to serve as a guide to PNM's before and during the recruitment process. Each PNM is assigned a recruitment counselor, PNM's may be placed into small groups assigned to a counselor.

Silence: a time period between the end of recruitment events and before bids are passed out. This means there can be absolutely no communication between PNM's and active sorority members.

Snap-bid: an option for chapters who did not make quota after preference but before bid day. They can offer bids to PNM's whose preferences were not matched, or they are not receiving a bid from a chapter listed on their MRABA. The woman would be contacted by the sorority directly and if she accepts will participate in the bid day festivities.

Social: a get-together with another group (Greek organization, club, sports team) for fun activities.

Throw What You Know: holding up the hand sign used by the sorority members to affiliate themselves in pictures

http://sites.psu.edu/caitlynhetrickblog/2015/03/18/were-all-secretly-gangs/


Unanimous Agreements: agreements between the 26 NPC organizations that ensure fairness and equality between the groups. Many of these agreements are about recruitment and recruitment procedures.

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Recruitment: Bid day!!!!

Today's the day! You get to receive and open your bid which is the beginning to a
lifetime of sisterhood. Bid day is what makes the last few stressful days worth it but, it's full of excitement which may be a bit overwhelming in your tired state.
Each chapter has different types of Bid Day celebrations but each one is full of meeting new sisters and bonding with other members through various activities. These festivities can include games, food and gifts for the new members.
In order to best prepare you for Bid day I'm going to include some videos that feature activities and the run to your new sisters.

University of Tennessee- Panhellenic Bid Day 2014


Tulane University- Chi Omega Bid Day 2014


Auburn University- Zeta Tau Alpha Bid Day 2014

Another important event on Bid day is finding out what chapter your Recruitment Counselor belongs to! This is exciting for both you and her. You finally get to stop guessing and she can finally return home to her sisters after being disaffiliated. If your school allows it, like mine does, there will be girls from her chapter there to welcome her home. This could be her best friends, her big, or her little!
Bid day is huge for you, your new sisters, and your recruitment counselors! Relax, have fun and enjoy!

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

National Panhellenic Conference Members

Before we get ready for Bid Day I want to go over the 26 members of the National Panhellenic Conference. It's great to not only have some knowledge about your own chapter but about all the chapters, this is key to becoming a truly Panhellenic woman. I listed the following information from each sorority's website along with the logos I've included. I also italicized sororities that have chapters at my school, Washburn University.

Pi Beta Phi


Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1867 at Monmouth College
12 Founding members
Symbols: Carnation and Angel
Colors: Wine and Silver Blue



Kappa Alpha Theta



Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1870 at Indiana Asbury College which is now DePauw University
4 Founding members
Symbols: Kite and Twin Stars
Colors: Black and Gold



Kappa Kappa Gamma





Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1870 at Monmouth University
6 Founding members
Symbols: Owl, Key, Fleu-de-Lis
Colors: Light Blue and Dark Blue



Alpha Phi



Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1872 at Syracruse University
10 Founding members
Symbols: Lilly of the Valley, Forget Me Not, Ivy Leaf, Bear
Colors: Silver and Bordeaux



Delta Gamma





Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1873 at Lewis School for Girls
3 Founding members
Symbols: Anchor, Hannah doll
Colors: Bronze, Pink and Blue



Gamma Phi Beta




Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1974 at Syracruse University
4 Founding members
Symbols: Crescent Moon, Pink Carnation
Colors: Light Brown and Dark Brown



Delta Delta Delta

Joined NPC: 1902
Founded: 1888 at Boston University
4 Founding members
Symbols: Poseidon, Pearls, Pine trees, the Pansy, Dolphins
Colors: Silver Gold and Cerulean Blue



Alpha Chi Omega



Joined NPC: 1903
Founded: 1885 at DePauw University
7 Founding members
Symbols: Red carnation, Lyre, Hera
Colors: Scarlet and Olive Garden



Chi Omega

Joined NPC: 1903
Founded: 1895 at University of Arkansas
5 Founding members
Symbols: Owl
Colors: Cardinal and Straw



Alpha Xi Delta


Joined NPC:1904
Founded: 1893 at Lombard College
10 Founding members
Symbols: Pink Rose, the Quill, teddy bear
Colors: Light Blue, Dark Blue and Gold



Sigma Kappa

Joined NPC: 1905
Founded: 1874 at Colby College
5 Founding members
Symbols: Violets, Dove, Heart, Pearl
Colors: Maroon and Lavendar



Alpha Omicron Pi

Joined NPC: 1905
Founded: 1897 at Barnard College
4 Founding members
Symbols: Ruby, the Rose, the Wheat and the Panda
Colors: Cardinal



Zeta Tau Alpha


Joined NPC: 1909
Founded: 1898 at Longwood Normal School
12 Founding members
Symbols: 5-point Crown, the White Violet, the Strawberry, Themis
Colors: Turquoise Blue and Steel Gray



Alpha Gamma Delta


Joined NPC: 1909
Founded: 1904 at Syracuse University
11 Founding members
Symbols: Pearl and Squirrel
Colors: Red, Buff and Green



Alpha Delta Pi

Joined NPC: 1909
Founded: 1851 at Wesleyan Female College
6 Founding members
Symbols: Lion, and Woodland Violet
Colors: Azure Blue and White



Delta Zeta


Joined NPC: 1910
Founded: 1902 At Miami University
6 Founding members
Symbols: Turtle and Diamond
Colors: Rose and Green



Phi Mu


Joined NPC: 1911
Founded: 1852 at Wesleyan College
3 Founding members
Symbols: Quatrefoil, rose colored carnation, Lion
Colors: Rose and White



Kappa Delta


Joined NPC: 1912
Founded: 1897 at Longwood Normal School
4 Founding members
Symbols: Nautilus shell, dagger, teddy bear, katydid
Colors: Olive Green and Pearl White



Sigma Sigma Sigma


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1898 at Longwood Normal School
8 Founding members
Symbols: Sailboat, and Skull and Crossbones
Colors: Royal Purple and White



Alpha Sigma Tau


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1899 at Michgan State University
8 Founding members
Symbols: Anchor
Colors: Emerald Green and Gold



Alpha Sigma Alpha


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1901 at Longwood Normal School
5 Founding members
Symbols: Ladybug, Star, Crown, Palm Tree and Phoenix
Colors: Crimson and Pearl



Alpha Epsilon Phi


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1909 at Barnard College
7 Founding members
Symbols: Giraffe and Pearl
Colors: Green and White



Theta Phi Alpha


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1912 at University of Michigan
2 Founding members
Symbols: the Penguin, and the Compass
Colors: Silver, Gold and Blue



Phi Sigma Sigma


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded:1913 at Hunter College
10 Founding members
Symbols: Sphinx and Sapphire 
Colors: King Blue and Gold



Delta Phi Epsilon


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1917 at New York University Law School
5 Founding members
Symbols: Unicorn
Colors: Royal Purple and Gold



Sigma Delta Tau


Joined NPC: 1951
Founded: 1917 at Cornell University
7 Founding members
Symbols: Garden Tea Rose
Colors: Cafe Au Lait and Old Blue

Monday, June 8, 2015

Recruitment: Day 3 (Preference)

This is finally your last day of Formal Recruitment! Not long after this round you'll find out if you got a bid. Following the pattern I mentioned in my last post, this round is much more serious than the previous two. During Preference, or Pref, you will talk with another member of the chapter and there's a good chance it'll be someone you already talked to during recruitment. Most Preference rounds also include a ceremony in which women talk about what their chapter means to them, this is a very emotional experience and it's possible you'll notice some of the girls crying. It's also possible that you will cry, it's not uncommon for potential new members to become emotional during Preference, especially during the ceremony at their first choice house.
I suggest that you look very nice today. It's ideal to wear a dress, heels, and jewelry. If you aren't comfortable in heels feel free to wear nice flats but I suggest avoiding sandals. Below are some examples of outfits, you may notice all of them are colorful outfits. This is because chapter women often wear black or navy dresses so wearing dark colored dresses may make you blend in with them. If you are most comfortable in a dark colored dress feel free to wear what you feel most confidant in.

Preference 1 by Taryn-Wilkins

Preference 2 by Taryn-Wilkins

Preference 3 by Taryn-Wilkins



Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Recruitment: Day 2 (Philanthropy)

After getting some much needed rest you'll come back to recruitment for Day 2, or Philanthropy Day! This round is a little bit more serious because you will be learning about each chapter's philanthropy, or charity. As a member of Greek life a huge part of your activities will be to raise money or donate time to a cause. Most Greek chapters have at least one official philanthropy as chosen by the national headquarters. Some chapters have more, like two or three organizations they help. Often, during this round of recruitment the women of each chapter will watch a video with you and you'll participate in a small activity such as making tie-blankets to donate or create goodie bags of candy for cancer patients going through chemotherapy. This day calls for less walking than Round 1 but you will still be walking from house to house so it's probably still a good idea to wear shoes you are comfortable in.
For Round 2 you want to look slightly nicer than the day before, I used the example "what you would wear to a high school graduation". It probably brings to mind sundresses, maxi skirts, pretty jewelry and possibly heels or wedges. Once again, I made examples of outfits on polyvore that are good starting points for this round however I cannot stress enough that you should be yourself, which means dress like you would. If you do not like pastels and prefer neon colors or jewel tones or black clothing then wear what you are comfortable in.
Philanthropy night 1 by Taryn-Wilkins

Philanthropy night 2 by Taryn-Wilkins

Philanthropy night 3 by Taryn-Wilkins



Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Recruitment: Day 1 (House Tours or Open House)


Welcome to your first round of sorority recruitment! The first round is typically house tours. This is a really fun, relaxed round. You may be nervous but the best thing you can do is relax and be yourself, it will all work out the way it's supposed to that way! One of the main questions girls typically have before and during recruitment is what to wear so my next few posts will cover wardrobe and what to expect from each round.
For house tours you want to be cute, but very comfortable. This is a good round to wear a nice pair of shorts, cute top, and flats or sandals. Feel free to add in some jewelry to dress up the outfit! This is an especially important round to be comfortable because you will be visiting ALL of the chapters which could call for a lot of walking along with touring each house. This may mean going up and down stairs. Below I have examples of outfits I made on polyvore, feel free to use these as inspiration in planning your outfit.
During this round you will have a brief time with each chapter during which you'll meet a few of the women and will be shown around the house. You'll learn about different rooms and what the chapter uses those rooms for. These houses are often large and quite beautiful but this will require lots and lots of walking so make sure you wear comfortable shoes. This is also when you will make your first impression so you don't want to be the girl who complained about her feet hurting the whole time.

House tours 3 by Taryn-Wilkins


House tours 2 by Taryn-Wilkins



House Tours 1 by Taryn-Wilkins